Jean Malpas, director of Ackerman Institute’s Gender and Family Project, offers professional help and five tips for parents raising transgender children. To read the full article, visit the Atlantic website.
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Jean Malpas draws for me what a mother once drew for him: something she called a “gender cookie cutter.” It’s a blobby gingerbread person on which various currently understood components of gender are mapped. There’s biological gender, a matter of chromosomes and genitals, indicated with a circle around the gingerbread crotch. There’s gender style, sometimes called gender expression: a person’s preferred self-presentation in matters such as play and dress and gait and speech pattern. This has been indicated by a circle encompassing the whole body. Next there’s sexual orientation, or romantic attraction to others, assigned to the heart. And finally there’s gender identity, the innate sense of being male or female regardless of biology or style or sexual interest. For this, Malpas surprisingly circles the brain. Some theories now suggest that the prenatal environment renders the brain a “gendered” organ. In most people, brain gender matches biological gender.
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“For some couples, the question is, ‘What does it mean to be on time?’ Is it his time, her time, Mountain Time? You know about this during the dating phase, but you’re in love and it’s not such a big deal.
“But children complicate things. I would get calls from daycare that my kid was the last one waiting and my husband hadn’t picked up the kid. Well, they said 6, and for him, 6:15 was fine.”
People rely on gender to help understand the world, to make order out of chaos,” says Jean Malpas, who directs the Ackerman Institute’s Gender and Family Project. “It’s been a way of measuring someone’s well-being: ‘Are you adjusted? Do you fit? Or are you unhinged?’ The social categories of man/woman, boy/girl are fundamental, and when an individual challenges that by blurring the lines, it’s very disorienting at first. It’s as if they’re questioning the laws of gravity.”
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